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Negotiating the nonnegotiable

by Daniel Shapiro

""A masterpiece--clear, insightful, and practical. Highly recommended!"--William Ury, coauthor of Getting to Yes and author of Getting to Yes with Yourself Find out how to successfully resolve your most emotionally charged conflicts. In this landmark book, world-renowned Harvard negotiation expert Daniel Shapiro presents a groundbreaking, practical method to reconcile your most contentious relationships and untangle your toughest conflicts. Before you get into your next conflict, read Negotiating the Nonnegotiable. It is not just "another book on conflict resolution," but a crucial step-by-step guide to resolve life's most emotionally challenging conflicts--whether between spouses, a parent and child, a boss and an employee, or rival communities or nations. These conflicts can feel nonnegotiable because they threaten your identity and trigger what Shapiro calls the Tribes Effect, a divisive mind-set that pits you against the other side. Once you fall prey to this mind-set, even a trivial argument with a family member or colleague can mushroom into an emotional uproar. Shapiro offers a powerful way out, drawing on his pioneering research and global fieldwork in consulting for everyone from heads of state to business leaders, embattled marital couples to families in crisis. And he also shares his insights from negotiating with three of the world's toughest negotiators--his three young sons. This is a must read to improve your professional and personal relationships"--

Chappie’s discussion starters

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  1. Which character stayed with you after you turned the last page, and why?
  2. Was there a moment where you disagreed with a character’s choice? What would you have done?
  3. What theme did this book keep circling back to — and did it earn its ending?
  4. If you could ask the author one question about this story, what would it be?
  5. Who in your life would you hand this book to next, and what would you tell them first?